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The Most Painful Thing About Entrepreneurship

There are times when I feel like I am a bad mom right now.

You see, she’s 7 months old and I had to stop breast feeding her around her eighth week – I tried really hard to make it last but my momentum demanded that I traveled to masterminds in Greece, to events in Boise, and to spend sleepless nights – not breastfeeding but growing this agency.

We were about to lose our home last year and my husband worked as much overtime as he could to keep the bills afloat.

“Which bill is priority and which one can we leave off for next month?”

I was VERY pregnant.

In the months when a woman starts to experience those first traces of motherly instinct – that uncontrollable desire to “nest”, we were selling every single belonging we had so we could make ends meet: The couch, the beds, the dishes. . .

And then one day I met her for the first time. . .

And what unfolded afterwards was a wave of events that are hard to clearly remember. Everything is happening so fast.

I firmly believe that this was divine intervention and that God has plans to do something big through me. Which is why I can’t stop.

He put the right coaches and mentors in front of me.

He put the right events in front of me – Funnel Hacking Live, The Clique Mastermind, OfferLab.

He put the right friends in front of me.

He put the right clients in front of me.

But regardless, this isn’t easy.

What pains me the most is not the difficult clients nor the difficult months, the risk, the instability that happens from taking a risk into entrepreneurship – It’s the fact that I must choose every day.

And there are many women out there right now with children – who create this facade about business, with trajectories that leave gaps in the story they deliver to their audiences.

But that will never be me. 

If you want a business that generates wealth, stability, and removes the chains from the people you love you are choosing to carry a cross.

From sleepless nights to not being able to breastfeed, from being too busy to be there for the friends you see like family, your intimate relationships – all of it is on the table and vulnerable. . . yes, even your daughter and the relationship you are nurturing, your well-being, everything.

I wrote a post about my mom’s hard life on my personal Facebook page a while back.

She used to clean houses.

She used to clean clubs.

She used to clean hospitals.

All because she needed to put food on the table for us.

She is not going to do that ever again as long as I can help it.

She won’t get humiliated ever again because of her broken English, ever again, for as long as I can help it.

I must provide the tools my daughter needs so that she can fly with the wings that I didn’t have, that my mother didn’t have, that my grandmother didn’t have. It’s a generational curse that I am breaking now. 

I want to be free.

I want us to be free.

It’s painful to not be able to spend all my waking hours with her. . .

But our house is paid up, our bills are paid up, we have a savings account, we are looking to invest now, we are looking to build up, we are looking to take care of our families – my mom has insurance now. Bella won’t have to start from The Negatives.

She has the nursery that I dreamed about last year and that I couldn’t get for her then.

She has stability.

She has us to protect her.

She has a better chance.

She has the world at her hands.

I do this for her.

I do this for him.

I do this for love.

What are you doing this for? Let me know in the comments. I’d love to know your story.

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Comments

  1. David Matthews says

    Emely,

    This made me cry. While I’m not a mom, I am building my empire for the same reasons. My mom, who now has Parkinson’s, only had a 6th grade education and raise me alone…my dad passed when I was 10.
    I refuse to to teach my children, one is 8 months old and the other is 19 years old, to go get a job. I want to teach them to take your passion and your intellect to the marketplace. That’s where you will find yourself and your freedom.
    Thank you for sharing.

    David Matthews

    • EmelyRoman says

      Thank you so much for sharing your story David. Even though you are not a mom you seem like a great father. I am sorry that you had to go through all those hard things in life but I am also glad you’ve found the spark that will fuel the rest of your life and that will also change your children’s lives. Keep me posted on your journey!

  2. Destinee says

    This made me cry! I don’t usually comment on blogs, but I have to say, just as God brought those clients, friends, and mentors to you, I feel like He has brought you to me through a job post. I’ve been creeping on your Facebook page and blog because you are a picture of who I want to be as an entrepreneur.

    This blog right here is a huge sign for me! I am a “single” mom of 4 kids. I say “single” because I’ve been separated from my husband for over 2 years and we have both made huge changes in our lives to where we are now working together to get through the damage that was done.

    But, the last three months have been very difficult for me and my business. I have barely made ends meet and am close to losing my home too. I also struggle with the balance of spending enough time with my kids, investing in them, working with my estranged husband to repair things and building a successful business.

    This blog is my answer! I have to sacrifice some time and sleepless nights in order to break the generational curse of financial struggle and the curse of underachievement! God has already broken the curses of abusive, dysfunctional home life for my children, now he’s working on me to show them that we can do ALL THINGS through Him if we’re willing to work hard and step outside of our comfort zone.

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. This is an awesome testimony of what God can do when things look hopeless.

    -Destinee <3

    • EmelyRoman says

      Hey Destinee, I’ve been reading your comment over and over again for the last day and half. I can’t thank you enough for sharing your thoughts on this with me. I am so happy that I am able to empower women like you to offer their faith and heart back to God. I know he has your back! And I pray that things in your home will soon start turning around. Please keep me posted on your journey.

  3. Star says

    Hello, I was wondering if you have any Christians on your team? Or if you plan on having one anytime soon? I am interested in starting a Christian blog so would only want a Christian! Thanks for your time!

    • EmelyRoman says

      Hey! We don’t hire based upon religion. But we do have an opening for a Social Media VA. Feel free to click here and apply if you feel like you are a good fit.

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